Relationship Bucket List: Dependablity

Yesterday morning, I royally screwed up. I have been babysitting the same family for  1.5 years now. Yesterday morning, I forgot to drive her to school. There was a miscommunication on both ends, but that still doesn’t make up for her being late to school. I don’t make anyone late for anything! I’m not the kind of person you have to remind about scheduled plans or events! I’m not the person you cannot count on to be there! I was so upset when I get that text asking “where are you?!”.

I wanted to crawl back in bed and let my undependability die…

This is so not like me. I hate undependability. I’m the one you call if an employee called out to cover the morning shift, I’m the one you call to cover an afternoon shift, I’m the one you call when you are locked up in jail and need to be bailed out. Well that never happened before, but my friends and family know they can call me to help them out no matter what time of the day/night it is.

I’m the one to come to when you need advice. I’m the one you come to when you need to vent. I’m the one you come to when you need a workout buddy because I’ll always be there.

I’m the one you come to when you need a date last minute and have no one else to ask. I’m the one you come to when you need to get stuff down; because I will get it done. I’m the one you come to to cover for anyone who is undependable.

Because I know what it is like to be let down by the people you never thought would let you down. It’s a horrible feeling. It’s a horrible attribute and I refuse to be one of those.

I had a friend for our Galentine’s Day dinner that I scheduled three weeks before the dinner happened, text me saying she wasn’t going. She decided, last-minute, to see a college friend instead of coming to the dinner. I was upset, but quickly asked my friend, Melissa, is she wanted to come instead. At that moment, I realized I wouldn’t extend an invitation to her anytime soon before meeting up with her to ask her what happened between setting up the reservations and her backing out two days before!

Undependability is an horrible thing. My future husband as well as any friends, current and future, will not be undependable. I can’t deal with undependability and I’m glad I learned that lesson now while I’m single.

I understand there are times of emergency where you have to become undependable. In terms of sickness, death, accident, family emergency, whatever it may be, those events are more like OMG is everything and everyone ok?! I’d be more concerned about their safety and less concerned about their dependability because their word just got thrown upside down!

What attributes or traits get your skin crawling? Would love to hear in the comments below!



As always, kisses on the peace sign fingers and love…

XO Jenn



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