Growing up, I had to rely solely on myself. I had to take care of myself because no one else was around. My mom was there; however she took care of me in terms of feeding me, clothing me, or taking my to places because of my age. As soon as I started making my own money, I bought my own food, clothes, entertainment, and paid my own bills. I like to think this helped me a lot now in terms of have to save, how to budget, and how to splurge when necessary. I’m not 100% financially independent yet, but I’m getting there. With each and every day I’m getting closer to it.
I feel because I was born so fiercely independent that affected my relationships and attracted certain type of people into my life. It’s not my fault that I was given this life. God knew I could handle it and He was right.
Growing up, it was all about me. I would buy food for myself, I paid my own bills, I took myself to work whether that be by walking, public transportation, or car. I paid for my own car including the gas and maintenance that’s involved. Actually, my mom made my get my license when I was 19 years old. She didn’t want me to use SEPTA anymore because she was afraid I was going to get hurt using it at night.
When I’m not in a relationship, it’s a about me. I’m in a relationship with myself. Bettering myself, loving myself, and working on myself to become a better person, friend, family member, and future wife for my future husband. This definitely affects me when I’m in a romantic relationship. It’s hard for me to turn off the independent side of me, but really? Should I turn it off?
I don’t think I should. I think it’s the best quality I have. I can’t change that about me and I won’t change that about me, so please don’t expect me to change. I don’t need to rely on a man to satisfy my needs.
So let’s hear for all the independent women out there who don’t need a man to complete their life! Being in love with an independent woman I think is the best type of love. It means she only wants your love, your loyalty because she can finance herself!
As always, kisses on the peace sign fingers and love…